Rediscovering a Sense of Self After a Breakup Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over. ~ Guy Finley Self-identity and self-concept are largely developed through friends, family, values and simple day-to-day activities – all of which become incredibly intertwined in a long-term relationship. So when a relationship ends, the […]
Ever wondered just how long it’s going to take to heal from your divorce? I know I did when I was going through my divorce. I was also given this challenging and critical question live on-stage by my interviewer recently, and I wanted to share my answer here, and also go into a little more […]
Have you been single since what seems like forever – and miserable about it? If so, you may be falling into one of these common self-defeating traps. 1) You raise the wrong bars too high I’m not suggesting you settle for something or someone that just isn’t right for you. I’ve talked before at length […]
This is the second part of a two-part series. To read the first part, click here. The other eternally single friend In my last post, I talked about one kind of eternally single friend that we all seem to have: the type who we know is awesome, isn’t shy about meeting people and always seems […]
If it’s been many months or years since your divorce, have you started dating again? If not, why? Because you genuinely want to be single? Or because you still haven’t healed and recovered from the trauma of the breakup? Because you’re not yet over your ex? When people ask you questions like these, do you get […]
“If anyone can show just cause why this couple cannot lawfully be joined together in matrimony, let them speak now, or forever hold their peace.” Ever heard that at a friend’s wedding and secretly listed all the reasons in your head why this union is so obviously a bad idea? When half of marriages end in […]
Everyone’s looking for that one big secret to happiness. We’re all after that magical thing that will transform our lives, our outlook and allow us to feel peaceful and content. But I’m going to let you in to a secret of my own: reality is much more mundane than that. There is no magical happiness formula. There is […]
How many times this week have you mentally replayed a fight that you had with your ex? I want you to answer honestly. Maybe not an actual fight – maybe you pictured what you would or should have said to them. Maybe you picture a confrontation you never had, or the killer blow you wish you’d delivered […]
Disney has a lot to answer for when it comes to preparing kids for real life. Stories about falling in love always end with “I do” – but we all know that’s where the hard work begins.
Relationships need nurture and care. Not just in the first flush of romance. Not just when you’re falling in love. Not just on your honeymoon.