Month: December 2010

The Divorce Grieving Cycle…

Posted on December 23rd, 2010

I know when you are going through a divorce that the roller-coaster ride can ‘feel’ very extreme. It alternates between activity and passivity in the very human and desperate efforts to avoid the change triggered by the divorce. The initial state before the cycle begins is often quite stable, at least in terms of the […]

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Are you out of touch with your emotions??

Posted on December 20th, 2010

I notice with many of my clients that they are out of touch with their emotions – almost like the divorce has NUMBED them… To remedy this, BUY A JOURNAL – CALL IT SOMETHING SPECIAL REPRESENTING THE NEW YOU – the you who has healed from the betrayal and who feels positive and amazing about her life… With […]

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Try these Simple Reframes on your Ex-relationship…

Posted on December 13th, 2010

Reframing is a technique used in therapy to help create a different way of looking at a situation, person, or relationship by changing its meaning. It’s also referred to as cognitive reframing which is a strategy coaches often use to help clients look at situations from a slightly different perspective. The essential idea behind reframing […]

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Postcards from the Edge…

Posted on December 13th, 2010

I recently received a letter from someone who went through a very bitter and twisted divorce. She says she’s ‘over’ it and although she never talks to her ex is in a great relationship now with someone who hates his ex too. Her question was about her concerns about whenever her ex talks about his […]

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