Has anyone ever warned you to stop getting so angry and bitter or you’ll make yourself sick? Far from an old wives’ tale, the negative impact that anger has on your health is thoroughly backed up by science. When you get...
Rediscovery after a breakup
Rediscovering a Sense of Self After a Breakup Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over. ~ Guy Finley Self-identity and self-concept are largely developed through friends, family, values and simple day-to-day activities - all of which become incredibly...
How long does it take to get over your divorce?
Ever wondered just how long it’s going to take to heal from your divorce? I know I did when I was going through my divorce. I was also given this challenging and critical question live on-stage by my interviewer recently, and I wanted to share my answer here,...
The big secret to getting over divorce fast
Ever notice how when you focus on something with intention, intensity and full concentration it gets done quicker? This is why classroom trainings over a few days are more effective than distance learning over six months. When you take your time, sometimes you focus on the subject and...
How to Behave After a Divorce
So much of the advice we are given is well meaning but is frankly hollow and trite… Designed to minimise our emotional pain as if it’s invalid emotion, it's not. This attempt to repress our emotions will actually increase the overall pain experienced and extend the recovery period, sometimes...
False Healing 101: Why Painting Over the Cracks Won’t Stop You Crumbling
Do people keep telling you to give yourself time to heal? That you just need to put some distance between yourself and your trauma? Simply wait for long enough and you’ll feel much better, get over it, and move on. Well... tell them to get stuffed....
Still Single and Putting Up with It? You Might Be Hiding a Self-Destructive Secret
If it’s been many months or years since your divorce, have you started dating again? If not, why? Because you genuinely want to be single? Or because you still haven’t healed and recovered from the trauma of the breakup? Because you’re not yet over your ex?...
How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part Two
So what now? This is the second part of the series. Haven’t read Part One yet? Click here. Okay, so you pulled up your reindeer-print socks, you got into the Christmas spirit (cabinet), you surrounded yourself with awesome friends and family until Boxing Day -- perhaps...
How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part One
Christmas is a tough, tough time for the newly single. Ultimately, it’s a holiday that’s all about spending time with family and the people you love, which can feel like a slap in the face when your family unit is splintering or you’re slowly, painfully, falling out of love....
Life’s Too Precious to Waste Wallowing in the Past
How many times this week have you mentally replayed a fight that you had with your ex? I want you to answer honestly. Maybe not an actual fight – maybe you pictured what you would or should have said to them. Maybe you picture a confrontation you never had,...