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What you might be going through in the early stages following a divorce
When your marriage is on the brink, life is so draining and depressing. You might be arguing all the time and unsure what to do. When your quality of life dips completely, it’s time to make a big decision: Either focus on completing rebuilding your relationship with our Spark Program OR choose to move forward alone. Living in limbo can suck the life out of you, so if you are in this space, getting clarity is a top priority…
Problems concentrating or remembering things
Upsetting arguments and undue stress communicating
Nostalgia from the past, where your reality is SO polar opposite
Feeling physically and emotionally upset
Feeling disconnected or numb
Feelings of guilt/ shame or panic
Many people live in this limbo for months if not years and their health suffers massively. If they divorce too quickly, the vast majority of people will go on to have unsuccessful relationships in the future. We know this because the divorce rate gets higher with second and third marriages. The reality is: THIS IS ONE OF THE TOUGHEST DECISIONS YOU WILL EVER MAKE. So getting total clarity on this is critical to moving forward either way. If your relationship is save-able: crack on and rebuild it from scratch. If not: Get moving on consciously uncoupling with as little drama as possible.
At Naked Divorce we have extensive experience in assessing whether a marriage is saveable or not. We have a program to support saving the marriage and programs to support couples and children to heal from divorce. Either which way, living in limbo in an unhappy situation impacts you, your kids and your health and life negatively. Also, if you leave an ailing marriage too long, saving it becomes less achievable over time. Getting clarity gets you out of resignation and back into the driving seat of this situation.
Book a Clarity Call with the Team to choose which program would suit you best
Deciding to divorce is a massive choice to make. Getting married is the biggest commitment you have ever made so choosing to undo that is not something to be taken lightly. We have sessions available to help you get clear on whether divorce is the right decision for you. We believe in people doing everything they can to save their marriage and in evaluating whether divorce is for you or not, you have the option to do the Naked Marriage SPARK program to work with your partner to see if your marriage is salvageable. In many cases, we find that it can be.
If however, your relationship has crossed the RELATIONSHIP RIFT, there is not much anyone can do to stop that train. Figuring out if your marriage is saveable, book a Power Hour call with Naked Divorce to help you assess the situation. There are 5 areas that need to be assessed across the 5 C’s:
Contemplate – each individual’s ability to fully know themselves and own their own stuff. If each person is willing to work on this, that’s a good thing
Comprehend – each individual’s ability to understand and accept the strengths and weaknesses of the other. Unwillingness to accept each other is a big red flag
Commit – The extent to which both people have both feet in, don’t leave, stay the course and stay in the game
Communicate – The way you communicate – whether you engage in harsh startups, flooding, criticism, contempt, defensiveness or stonewalling can be a death knell to your relationships. We can tell within 5 minutes of talking to a couple if they will divorce or not…
Court – Evaluating as a couple how much you both prioritize the relationship, woo and create desire between each other…
We can tell within a detailed assessment if your relationship is saveable and give you options. If however, your divorce looks like it’s going ahead, we can help you project manage the steps and help you negotiate your outcomes to minimise costs and impact. We have over a decade’s experience in helping people get the best outcomes, often saving them thousands if not millions each year.
Problems with traditional therapy…
Are your goals and those of the traditional therapist aligned?
The reality is that a professional therapist only earns income for as long as your ‘problem’remains. They are financially incentivized for your issue to continue for as long as possible, often years.
No guarantee - Traditional therapy has no guarantee of success
Not fast - Traditional therapy takes months, often years
Limited-tech - 80%+ only have expertise in one therapy
Not cheap - Average cost = $7,436.00 - $14,872.00 (USA)
Not expert - Not specialized in getting over divorce trauma
Don't just ride the rollercoaster of limbo...
Risks caused by the limbo and pain of no clarity are significant and real both physically and mentally. But with courage, commitment, and action – you can choose whether to save your marriage or to divorce consciously. We guarantee it.
RISK HEART DISEASE
Data: Web MD study conducted in 2019 – check statistics here: www.webmd.com
RISK OF DEATH
Data: National Center for Biotechnology Information www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
The Naked Divorce Clarity Retreat was built to give you clarity on saving your marriage or choosing to divorce, so you can get back to living, rather than being stuck in limbo.
Guaranteed - 30 day money-back guarantee included with every program
Fast - Intensive program, achieves rapid results
Multi-tech - Highly trained across many trauma coaching technologies
Fixed cost - All our programs are transparent with fixed pricing
Expert - We are specialists in getting over divorce
The Naked Divorce Clarity Retreat is 97% faster than Traditional therapy at helping you choose what to do
The 5 day Clarity Retreat
The Clarity retreat can be done alone or as a couple.
It's time to get out of limbo and get clear on whether to divorce or not...
Why the Clarity Retreat?
There are three magic ingredients…
Whilst the content we deliver in The Clarity Retreat is largely similar to that of our Divorce Assessment, it’s undeniable that the results achieved on our Retreats are vastly superior. Here’s why…
There are three (3) critical differences between the Haven and our 21 Day Emotional Freedom Program.
If you jog for once a week, in 6 months time your fitness will improve a fraction if at all. If you train 4 times a week, the results after just 2 months will be vastly superior. This is totally logical. And it’s exactly the same with trauma recovery. The more intense the effort, the greater the reward. A 5 day retreat, is (obviously) far more intensive than a 3 hour Divorce Assessment. On the retreat we go into a great amount of detail and review every angle of your marriage and potential divorce (which is itself vastly more intense, and productive than an hour call with a therapist once a week). This means that the decision you make can be made with confidence.
Face2Face Interaction with expert in divorce
Whilst the Naked Divorce team are experts in remote communication, there are certain exercises the therapists can do in-person which make a massive difference to the intensity of your transformation. Working with Adele on this assessment is a very intense and personal journey which not only leads to clarity, but to making some clear commitments to your transformation. Adele’s corporate background means you will most certainly leave with a detailed project plan for life moving forward! The Clarity retreat can be done alone or as a couple.
Getting out of your normal environment means that you can focus on your healing in a way you cannot do at home. It makes total sense that a vacation will assist in emotional clarity. If you want to reduce stress, and want to gain more happiness you need to escape your normal environment. We choose beautiful locations but often run our retreats on location with our clients too.
Please contact us for Retreats which are running as there are some changes due to the COVID-19 lockdowns across the world...
We are obsessed with performance. To make sure we continue to be the best in the industry, we measure everything…
"The Internet's #1 Divorce Recovery Company"
Your Healing Ingredients
These unique ingredients that make The Clarity Retreat the No.1 Divorce Decision Retreat in the World…
1-2-1 private coaching with reknowned Divorce Coaches
Scientifically choreographed days that will stimulate recovery
An intense goal-focused program that guarantees results
No other divorce recovery program on the planet like The Haven
Celebrities, Royalty, CEO's appreciate the total privacy we provide
Support starts before you arrive, and includes 30 days post-event follow-up
Naked Divorce Recovery Data
Data: Data above is based on self assessment from customers completing the Naked Divorce Clarity and Haven retreats as well as all our online programs. This program (or variations) started in 2012 and data has been recorded from mid 2017.
Data: Data is updated every quarter. Last Update: 03 Jan 2020.
The UKs number 1 Divorce Coach
The Founder of Naked Divorce Adèle Théron speaking on stage at the Mermaid Theatre, London
Make Sure You Don’t Become Addicted to Therapy for Years
There are 3 significant costs to traditional therapy…
Financial: typical cost is equivalent to 6-12 annual holidays [USA].
Time: Typically lasts a little under 1.5 years.
Relationships: Any chance of finding the love of your dreams whilst you still have issues from the past are significantly hampered.
There is a warm-up phase to this retreat where you have an initial call with Adele to explain your situation at a high level. This helps her to tailor the retreat content to your situation and to give you further pre-work to best prepare for the retreat, if required.
The Clarity retreat can be done alone or as a couple…
The first module is focused on restoring balance. You will do this module remotely with your Divorce Coach as you prepare for the Clarity Retreat. The stress of making a massive decision weighs very heavily upon us and our emotions can go haywire. Before you consider making any critical decisions, we first need to get you grounded, and emotionally stable. To begin, you’ll create a strong solid foundation so you have a supportive environment to contain your transformation.
You’ll regain confidence, self-esteem and control. And feel invincibly tough in the face of change or criticism. And you’ll absorb the principles, ethics and structure of the program, so you’re ready and excited to begin transforming. If you are in the middle of your divorce then we may recommend to make the cocoon period a bit longer. Only leave cocoon once you have passed the test!
Healthy GROUNDED Routines
Follow the rules
Working on Compassion so you release any shame associated to making decisions freely
Here the true healing begins. Once you arrive on location you will be cocooned. Inside the cocoon, the caterpillar is rapidly healing and changing, preparing to burst out as a beautiful butterfly. A caterpillar CANNOT grow wings without being contained but once contained, the real work can begin… With step-by-step guidance and around-the-clock support , you’ll work with your Divorce Coach on taking steps daily to reach clarity on what to do with your life. With intensive work on your relationship, your values, your principles and exploring all ways forward, clarity begins to emerge.
The Metamorphosis involves intensive work to focus on your relationship, critical learnings, what the source of the issues are and exploring what to do next. Rapid changes happen within a short period of time.
Once your are on your way home, you have a month to complete these steps with your Divorce Coach.With all pain and emotional trauma gone, feeling light, free and happy, you’re now ready to work on your future, dreams and desires.
Get back in touch with yourself again, change beliefs, set boundaries, and know with crystal clarity what you want either taking forward momentum on your relationship using the Spark Program OR on moving forward in a conscious uncoupling way with Separation Shift or one of our other programs. The Release focuses on your future, your relationship with yourself, and getting back in touch with who you are as a person or as a couple.
As you enter the final stages of Release, not only will you feel more alive, but you will begin to be free from the constraints of the past and from making excuses to delay having the life you deserve and love.
Haven in a nutshell
Maintain high performance
Benefits of doing the Clarity Retreat
Get your life back - Time is the ultimate perishable resource. Once it is gone, it is gone forever. Get clear on your path and start taking steps forward, and claim your life back now.
Life Lessons - Learning is healing. Healing is learning. The lessons you will learn during this program will be valuable to you across many areas of your life.
Dare to Dream - Dare to dream of a bigger life, a more ambitious, bolder life, with more rewards. You deserve it.
Learn to Love Again - Whether you stay married or choose to divorce, it’s simple, a life lived with love is better. This program will help you attract the right love into your life.
Self Confidence - Knowing in your soul that you can overcome adversity is incredibly valuable to any person's self-confidence, and capability.
Inspire Others - By expanding your personal development, you will inspire friends, family, and if you have them, your children.
Just a few of our testimonials
Haven Retreaters share their experience
“A really transformational experience. I didn’t expect to feel better within a week and I really did. Totally changed life as I know it”
I was full of anger and rage of my ex husband and can not stand seeing him. I felt lonely and despair. I went to normal therapy which was OK, but just didn’t fix the issue. He was waiting for me to talk about how I felt which I was embarrassed to express. When I first started with my coaching my ex husband was still doing the same stupid things that drove me crazy before. What changed though was my ability to now remain very calm and feel in control of my own emotions. This was the whole point of Naked Divorce. It allowed me to take my focus off the negative things my ex husband would do and channel all that energy on bettering MYSELF! This wouldn’t have ever been possible if it weren’t for the amazing coaching support I received throughout the programme. I am very satisfied with the outcome and would encourage anyone who feels the same to try Naked Divorce. It really is a God send!
Healing from divorce is possible, if you give it time and mind and have a true desire to be a new person. “I will live my life happily!” if my emotions went down for any reason regarding divorce I would go back to the exercises I have done through the program and go through them again.
“My life’s completely changed!”
I feel the process short circuited a lot of wasted energy and pain and got my back on my feet in double quick time.
My biggest problem stage was actually prior to the split. I was referred to Adele who recommended The Clearing – a process that would give me the objectivity to make the decision to leave my ex. I had struggled with the decision for years and had been living in a dis-empowering relationship for so long I had conditioned myself into normalising a horrible situation. My biggest struggle was seeing that there was more and that I deserved more than a partner who resented me. Reaching the realisation that I was happier alone and understanding the mechanisms that kept me stuck in the relationship were massive breakthroughs for me. We initially went to couples therapy 18 months in to the relationship. Our power dynamic was misdiagnosed and the treatment we were given actually made our situation worse. I continued to approach the same therapist every few years for help but as he had misunderstood us from the very beginning I just kept getting incorrect advice. The therapist also didn’t appear to have read his case notes before he saw us and didn’t link the context between sessions. The sessions would end without resolution and I would just blame myself for the relationship and dive back in and try harder to make things work. Last year I decided to approach a different therapist through an App called talk space – I was overwhelmed with stress in every area of my life. I used the platform because it was fast and could match me with someone quickly. I got connected to a Gay therapist called Sal who was great, really warm and supportive and with his fresh eyes on our relationship, I started to see how bad things were. Because Sal was an online only therapist based in the US and we just communicated via chats and video calls I could feel that while he was helping he couldn’t read all the non verbal cues and we didn’t necessarily get to the depth of Discussion that I needed. Sal helped me start the process of leaving but without realising there was a power dynamic at play in the relationship he also unknowingly encouraged me to act in a way that was actually super enticing to my ex and caused the most epic of love bomb situations which got me stuck in our cycle for a final time. A close friend finally referred me to Adele and the cycle was broken. The Clearing was the first time I realised my relationship had a very strong and unspoken power dynamic. It was the first time I acknowledged how toxic and how painful my relationship had been. I realised I had a pattern of dating men who were unkind and verbally or psychologically controlling. The Clearing got me out of over a decade of suffering. Not only that, it started the process of reacquainting me with my inner values and self honour. Without any exaggeration I got more out of The Clearing in 4 days than I did from over a year of conventional therapy. I started the clearing feeling broken and in unbelievable emotional pain and I finished it resolute with my shoulders back and head held high. At the end of the Clearing process I suddenly realised how incredible my life was going to be. I started The Naked Divorce very quickly after my breakup. I feel the process short circuited a lot of wasted energy and pain and got my back on my feet in double quick time. The process gave me something to lean on and most people around me had no idea I was going through a divorce. As a gay man completing the Men’s programme obviously the whole programme is written assuming the ex partner is female so female pronouns are used throughout. This didn’t affect my learning and I see straight and gay long term relationships as the same so was happy to dealt with as equivalent. That said I think a gay programme with male pronouns or gender neutral ones would be a really nice touch if you are seeing more gay clients. That said when I was processing my divorce, the correct pronoun use isn’t really a top priority and I was far more focused on the content and I was quite happy for my ex to be called a “she” – added a bit of humour. Since the naked divorce I’ve addressed my home, my appearance, put a huge amount of work in to my business strategy and I’m going to look at my finances and also my extra-curricular activities outside of work to get better balance in my life and really focus for the first time as an adult on building amazing friendships and surrounding myself with Positive inspiring humans. Overall, I was extremely satisfied with the whole programme. I was happily surprised at the quality of it all! I would 110% recommend this to anyone who is willing to help themselves during times of emotional distress. Life saver!
*taken from over 6132 participants over 6 years
"Our goal is to empower 10,000 people to choose to stay married and fix that OR choose to heal from divorce and see it as a crossroads in their life vs. the crisis it is for so many people globally" - Naked Divorce Team
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