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7 Ways Bad Divorce Etiquette is Blocking Your Recovery
Four days into my divorce I hadn’t eaten for three days, I’d been in my tracksuit for 36 hours straight and had chain-smoked 40 cigarettes – and I’m not even a smoker. A huge pile of laundry lay on the couch waiting to be ironed, and used tissues were everywhere. The house was in absolute […]
Read MoreAre You Choosing Your Life Or Just Surviving?
Old stuck emotions held you down, unable to rise above survival mode or think beyond it. When you don’t face those emotions and work to release them permanently you’re just stuck struggling to deal with them day by day, while also trying to operate a normal life and survive.
Read MoreSick of Suffering for Others? Stop Being a Martyr!
How can you give so much but feel so empty and angry? If you’re a martyr, you’re selfish and you’re not giving freely. You tell others you are, but you’re not. And because of this you’re suffering in silence… and causing it all yourself. The motivation of a martyr is to sacrifice themselves for someone else […]
Read MoreStop Fixating On Your Ex and Focus On Yourself!
Let me tell you a bit about one of my clients, I’ll call her Molly… Molly came to see me towards the end of 2009. She’d been divorced for six years and in all that time hadn’t stopped obsessing about what her ex-husband was up to. In the beginning, she would talk about only one […]
Read MoreHow To Survive Thanksgiving Tantrums and Torment With Your Crazy Family!
Thanksgiving is less than a few days away and you’re planning a traditional holiday dinner, which includes a golden turkey as the showpiece of the meal. Although the Mercy for Animals Foundation conducted an undercover investigation on the abuse these birds are subjected to – it is NOTHING compared to the amount of stress and anxiety […]
Read MoreSuperstition Makes You Stupid!
Do you have to follow some little daily ritual or your whole day goes pear-shaped? Then stop for a second. And think about it. Actually think about it. Then stop for a second. And think about it. Actually think about it. Your life being great is not dependent on getting out of bed with your […]
Read MoreStop Saying “I’m Fine” When You’re Not
There are a couple of great untruths in this world: Ticking the box to confirm that you’ve read the Terms and Conditions, telling your kids you’ll help them find the packet of skittles that you ate a few hours ago, and replying “I’m fine” every time someone asks you how you are. This is a […]
Read MoreAre You Defeated – or Stronger – for Your Trauma?
A young woman went to her mother one day and told her despairingly about her life and how things were so hard for her. She just didn’t know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new […]
Read MoreIs Robin Williams’ Death on his Ex-Wives’ Hands?
I had a very tossy and turny sleep and woke up utterly furious. This never happens to me, but whenever I get this angry about something, I know a chord has been struck. Robin Williams’ death is utterly tragic. The world has been in collective shock and it’s reached in and grabbed people by the […]
Read MoreProtect Your Children From the Trauma of Divorce (Part 2)
In my previous article, I addressed issues which can affect your children during difficult divorce proceedings. Here are some further ways you can make sure your children are not negatively influenced by divorce. Going through a divorce is emotionally and financially crippling; however, if a child is involved, making sure you do what’s best for them […]
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