Are you always saying “I’m fine” and resisting support?
It’s so interesting that the people who struggle the most and need the most help in life usually don’t see it. They’re the people who push help and support away.
They think needing support is weakness. That even admitting you need help is weakness. Do you know someone like this? Perhaps you know someone like this rather… intimately?
If you do, here’s news for you:
Winners Get Help!
And they always do. Quickly, when they need it. Without complaining. And without caring one little bit about how they’re perceived for asking for support.
Those self-aware people enjoying success in life notice when they need help sorting something out. When things don’t work out they say, ‘Woah, I need to get my head straight and because I am in my own head, I probably need some help with that.’
They then get up and go get help and just like that, they’re back in their mojo, loving life once more. They even build a whole Dream Team of support people in their corner.
And they do it because they know they’re responsible for everything in their lives. And they avoid the common mistake in thinking I see so often among (usually very intelligent) ‘I’m fine’ people…
Stop Looking Outside Yourself for a Magic Bullet Solution
I see this pattern so often. People who think their issues in life are outside of themselves.
They think if they can just change their circumstances, their financial situation, their weight or their job, or the people around them then BOOM everything will suddenly fall into place and their life will work out.
The truth is circumstances and the people around us have nothing to do with our lives being good or bad. Our mindset, attitude and inner world absolutely shapes our outcomes in the world around us.
It’s All On You – You Are the Cause
If life ain’t working out for you, or you keep attracting drama/chaos/issues, or are just perpetually unhappy, then you have something to do with that. You, and only you.
We cannot control what happens to us in life but we can control how we react. It’s all about our mindset and our inner landscape, which shapes our outcomes.
The bottom line – we are responsible for the results we achieve in life. We have everything to do with how our lives turn out. And those who know this fact are self-aware and are usually the ones happy and enjoying success.
If You’re on an Island, You’re Probably Drowning
The ones that say they never need help but continue complaining, staying on their islands being ‘fine’ are usually the ones sinking and drowning in a pit of despair.
There’s a misunderstanding that seeking support somehow makes you weak. Successful people have no concern about how they’re perceived – they simply focus everything on being empowered and driving forward.
They look at themselves, get into action, do whatever it takes. And successful people have their Dream Team to support them through everything.
Your Challenge – One Whole Day, NO COMPLAINING
Here’s my challenge to you. Firstly, take on the ‘No Complaints Day’ challenge. For one whole day you are not allowed to complain in any way, shape or form. Sounds easy? Try it. It might be the most revealing day of your life.
Secondly, start building your Dream Team of support around you. Stop saying ‘I’m fine’ when you’re not, and start saying ‘Can you help me please?’