No one enters a marriage entertaining the fact that they are probably going to get divorced. Falling in love is beautiful, it is fun, and getting married is the cherry on top of the commitment cake.
Unfortunately, many studies show that at least 40-50% of modern marriages end in divorce. It is scary to consider that almost half of all marriages fail, but what it does show is that you are not alone in what you are going through.
People get divorced every single day throughout the world and while there are definitely individual circumstances that lead to divorce, there does tend to be a common theme in the reasons that couples give for their divorce.
You’ll probably have a good idea of some of the reasons why couples don’t make it through their marriage. However, it’s important to realize that the reason for your divorce might not be the source of your divorce, and we’ll get into how you can figure this out in just a bit.
First, let’s take a quick look at just some of the most common reasons for divorce.
Financial difficulties and issues are some of the most common reasons for divorce. This could range from anything such as stress from low incomes and one partner earning more than the other, to frivolous spending and even a difference in how two partners think money should be spent and saved.
They say that money is the source of all evil and when it comes to marriage it does seem to be one of the biggest factors affecting married couples negatively. Finances are not an easy topic to talk about and many couples don’t see eye to eye when it comes to earning, sharing, and spending money.
Of course, infidelity is another of the top reasons people get a divorce. Marriage is built on trust and when a partner ventures out of this circle of trust by looking for emotional or physical satisfaction, it shakes or completely destroys the foundation that the marriage is built upon.
When intimacy starts to fade in a marriage, it’s not necessarily about not wanting to be intimate—it could have many different root causes. But at the end of the day, marriage without intimacy is friendship at best.
Communication breakdown is a top reason for getting a divorce. It might not be the straw that breaks the camel’s back, but a lack of communication only leads to misunderstandings and conflict that could spiral into something more.
The good old celebrity favorite of irreconcilable differences. This basically comes to falling out of love, having too many differing opinions, and things just not “working out”.
At the end of the day, the reasons given above are just some of the more common causes of divorce. Of course, it’s different for every couple, and while one of these could be the cause of your divorce, it doesn’t make it the source of your divorce necessarily.
Finding the source of your divorce and working through it, is one of the best ways to confront, accept, and heal the hurt that you feel after going through a divorce. Acknowledging your own responsibility in the breakdown of your marriage and finding out what the underlying factors were that lead to the final straw is a hugely important step to take towards a healthy and fulfilled future.
I have been through a divorce and I know that time does not heal all wounds. Healing takes time, focus, and vulnerability and at Naked Divorce, this is something that we want to give you the tools to achieve.
We have created an inspiring and effective program for our clients that includes a guide and workbook. Finding the Source of Your Divorce is all about working through the breakdown of your marriage step by step and identifying the source (or sources) of your divorce, which will set you on the quickest path to healing.
We want you to know that you aren’t alone in your divorce and that we are here to help you on your amazing journey every step of the way.
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