Consider that instead of biding your time to get over your divorce or waiting for 'time to heal all wounds', you could use the intense force of this divorce and change in your life to stimulate personal growth... Ilya Prigogine, who won a Nobel prize for...
When you are resilient you have the confidence to let your defensiveness drop and you can truly relax and enjoy life. Remember, you are in complete control of your mind, your feelings and your life. 100% control. Perhaps you just forgot that for a while. We all do sometimes....