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New Year, New You: Don’t Be Like Bacon-Loving Man. Create a Healing Goal to Move On!

Posted on December 30th, 2013

So you ate your body weight in mince pies, turkey, chocolates and drank enough mulled wine to pickle yourself. Now what?

Now it’s time to dust yourself off and begin to think about 2014 and the NEW YOU you want to bring into being. It’s an opportunity to become clean, fresh, new and shiny bright. It’s a chance to wipe the slate clean and make some decisions about your life.

I had an interesting experience before Christmas.

As some of you know, I was doing a daily ‘Random Act of Kindness’ and decided to give away 10 online copies of my 21-day program for all to enjoy based on the best story that people write in. Some of the stories have been incredible and hence we have awarded our prizes (only a couple left) but anyhoo, one story was a bit sad.

It was from a guy who basically wrote this sarcastic tale of bitterness about his ex wife and how badly she needs to do the program because she is horrible, vile and needs fixing.

Of course I could not step over this email and wrote back saying that he sounded hurt and upset and wouldn’t he like to try and re-write the story so he could do the program himself.
He then wrote back saying that he was not able to heal and would be wounded FOREVER and the only thing that brings a smile to his dial is making others happy and eating bacon. Now, I am a ridiculous fan of bacon too but come on – is this the life you have decided is for you?

We went back and forth for a while and the crux of it was — and he admitted —  he did not want to heal.

He got too much of a payoff out of not healing (sympathy from others, an excuse to live a small life, enjoying feeling stuck and enjoying having a sad story as well as feeling righteous about how his ex ruined his life).
When I pointed out that he had no commitment to healing at all, he agreed and got angry and stopped engaging. So, ladies and gentlemen readers, hear my plea:

Life is short. Life is precious. Life is for living and not suffering or spending years hating your ex or living a rubbish existence so you can feel vindicated. That’s just sad and victim-like behaviour.

Get busy living and do not take it lying down. Don’t be like Bacon-Loving man and accept a less-than-amazing-life because you just don’t want to heal. It’s all about believing it’s possible and then going out there and making it happen. You need to find out more about our Goal Getter so you can create a Healing Goal for your life. Contact the team to purchase this great program…

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