How are your resolutions going?
Instead of the usual suspects of exercise more, get out of debt, save more, drink less, eat more healthily, etc. how about committing to taking on the habits of thought and action that will make you more powerful in 2015?
After all, without a foundational strength of character, what chance do any of your other resolutions have of succeeding? Not much!
If you can adopt even one of these lessons, you’ll find it far easier to gain control over your life, your emotions, and all your relationships this year – and, last but not least, your relationship with yourself.
So in 2015, let’s:
1. Stop being a victim
Stop being caught up in getting attention by playing the victim or trying to tell everyone your sob stories. Focus instead on solving the issues and problems in your life as quickly as possible, and moving on.
2. Stop whining
Losers always whine about the reasons why they didn’t achieve something. Winners simply work out what they can learn from the experience, count it as a step towards their goal, put it from their mind and move on.
3. Learn to bounce back
Failure is not getting down, it’s staying down. Failure is simply feedback so see it as that and work on your resilience in bouncing back quickly.
4. Stop being a drama queen
Don’t see every little thing that happens as so significant and create dramas out of small things. It’s an addiction! Stop doing it – keep things small and move on.
5. Live with integrity
Focus on your personal integrity and honouring your values, ethics and agreements with people and yourself. Especially with yourself.
6. Stop just doing what you ‘feel’ like
Powerful people don’t run their lives based on what they ‘feel’ like doing at any given moment. Powerful people value their commitments and their agreements with themselves and others and when they don’t ‘feel’ like doing something they ignore those feelings and do what they agreed to do anyway.
7. Communicate with clarity
Powerful people communicate clearly and powerfully, without drama. They make requests and never make excuses for why things don’t happen.
8. Speak with power
Focus on making eye contact with people when you talk to them, lift your chin and speak in a clear audible voice. Softly spoken people are very dominating to those around them as everyone needs to lean in to hear them. It’s subtle manipulative control vs. clear powerful behaviour.
9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself
The universe doesn’t care about your bad day and neither does anyone else. Pick yourself up and keep moving forward.
10. Stop gossiping
Never talk badly about other people. Bored people talk about other people. Powerful people talk about the big games, projects and exciting things they are doing in their lives.
11. Stop worrying if others like you or not
Stop giving a damn about everyone liking you. There is a clear T-junction when it comes to this point – you can focus on being liked or you can make a difference in life. Both of these items cannot always be true together.
12. Stop complaining when life isn’t fair
Life isn’t fair, so people will talk about you behind your back and be horrible, even if you don’t deserve it and have always been nice and supportive to them.
This is because most people will only do whatever they do to forward things for themselves, so don’t expect that your good deeds and actions for others will always come back to you. Simply do your good deeds and actions for your own reasons and not to get anything back – this way you won’t be disappointed or constantly feel hard done by.
Think you can take on the challenge and become far more powerful this year? I know you can.