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Warning Signs that you are losing control during your divorce…

Posted on January 3rd, 2011

There are some important considerations to keep in mind when dealing with a life-altering change that is divorce. One of the big confidence boosts after divorce is an invincible feeling that you have survived change. However, it’s very important to watch what you are changing and at what pace you are making those changes. Case […]

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The Divorce Grieving Cycle…

Posted on December 23rd, 2010

I know when you are going through a divorce that the roller-coaster ride can ‘feel’ very extreme. It alternates between activity and passivity in the very human and desperate efforts to avoid the change triggered by the divorce. The initial state before the cycle begins is often quite stable, at least in terms of the […]

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Are you out of touch with your emotions??

Posted on December 20th, 2010

I notice with many of my clients that they are out of touch with their emotions – almost like the divorce has NUMBED them… To remedy this, BUY A JOURNAL – CALL IT SOMETHING SPECIAL REPRESENTING THE NEW YOU – the you who has healed from the betrayal and who feels positive and amazing about her life… With […]

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Try these Simple Reframes on your Ex-relationship…

Posted on December 13th, 2010

Reframing is a technique used in therapy to help create a different way of looking at a situation, person, or relationship by changing its meaning. It’s also referred to as cognitive reframing which is a strategy coaches often use to help clients look at situations from a slightly different perspective. The essential idea behind reframing […]

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Postcards from the Edge…

Posted on December 13th, 2010

I recently received a letter from someone who went through a very bitter and twisted divorce. She says she’s ‘over’ it and although she never talks to her ex is in a great relationship now with someone who hates his ex too. Her question was about her concerns about whenever her ex talks about his […]

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Why people drift apart when married…

Posted on October 25th, 2010

Far from running from the idea of relationships during my divorce, I found myself fascinated by the dynamics of successful relationships. I wanted to learn everything I could about relationships and what makes them successful. This model from world-renowned life coach and self-help author Antony Robbins made an enormous difference to my life. Essentially, he […]

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Divorce is a Unique Opportunity to Transform Yourself Completely…

Posted on October 16th, 2010

Consider that instead of biding your time to get over your divorce or waiting for ‘time to heal all wounds’, you could use the intense force of this divorce and change in your life to your advantage… Ilya Prigogine, who won a Nobel prize for Chemistry in 1977 is widely regarded as the Isaac Newton […]

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The Vow Break – Breaking the ties with your ex powerfully

Posted on August 11th, 2010

When two people get married, there is a beautiful ceremony and celebration with all your friends, family and community involved. Everyone is willing you on to succeed. Sadly, when two people get divorced, it’s akin to seeing tumbleweed rolling across an empty road whilst crickets sing gently in the background. There is literally nothing out […]

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Why do I feel SO out of control during my divorce?

Posted on July 16th, 2010

It was 02:30 in the morning, I was on my third glass of wine and hadn’t eaten in 3 days. I had been in my pajamas for 36 hours straight and chain smoked 40 cigarettes (AND I don’t even smoke!) There was a pile of laundry on the couch waiting to be ironed, used tissues […]

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What on earth do I do with my relationship baggage?

Posted on February 5th, 2010

Let’s deviate for a moment and discuss baggage in general. Everyone has some form of baggage from a relationship or a nasty break up or divorce. Without being insensitive, if we are really committed to our next relationship working beautifully, we need to purge that baggage, or manage it. Before we can do that, let’s […]

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