Category: * Divorce healing
False Healing 101: Why Painting Over the Cracks Won’t Stop You Crumbling
Do people keep telling you to give yourself time to heal? That you just need to put some distance between yourself and your trauma? Simply wait for long enough and you’ll feel much better, get over it, and move on. Well… tell them to get stuffed. Time heals all wounds they say. Does it? Let […]
10 Steps to Becoming the Best Version of Yourself
New Year, New You Let’s face it: “New Year, New You” guides tend to be click-bait, fantasy-land nonsense. Every NYE, millions of us decide that, starting from RIGHT NOW, we’re going to be that happy, shiny, confident and all-round perfect human being we always thought we would be. We’ll spend two hours in the gym […]
Still Single and Putting Up with It? You Might Be Hiding a Self-Destructive Secret
If it’s been many months or years since your divorce, have you started dating again? If not, why? Because you genuinely want to be single? Or because you still haven’t healed and recovered from the trauma of the breakup? Because you’re not yet over your ex? When people ask you questions like these, do you get […]
How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part Two
So what now? This is the second part of the series. Haven’t read Part One yet? Click here. Okay, so you pulled up your reindeer-print socks, you got into the Christmas spirit (cabinet), you surrounded yourself with awesome friends and family until Boxing Day — perhaps you even scored a cheeky kiss on New Year’s Eve. […]
How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part One
Christmas is a tough, tough time for the newly single. Ultimately, it’s a holiday that’s all about spending time with family and the people you love, which can feel like a slap in the face when your family unit is splintering or you’re slowly, painfully, falling out of love.
Everywhere you look, it seems the world is rubbing your nose in it. You’re surrounded by images of happy, loved-up couples, festive romantic comedies, adverts reminding you to buy a perfect present for that “special person” in your life. Not to mention the prospect of sitting through Christmas dinner with that emotionally defective great-aunt who can’t help asking intrusive questions about your divorce. What a minefield.
Six Reasons You’re Doomed to Marry the Wrong Person
“If anyone can show just cause why this couple cannot lawfully be joined together in matrimony, let them speak now, or forever hold their peace.” Ever heard that at a friend’s wedding and secretly listed all the reasons in your head why this union is so obviously a bad idea? When half of marriages end in […]
5 Simple Steps That Will Make You Happier Today
Everyone’s looking for that one big secret to happiness. We’re all after that magical thing that will transform our lives, our outlook and allow us to feel peaceful and content. But I’m going to let you in to a secret of my own: reality is much more mundane than that. There is no magical happiness formula. There is […]
What Does Your Body Say About You?
This article was inspired by an article I recently read at MindBodyGreen. I started thinking about all the things our bodies can say about us. While the article above primarily focuses on health issues that can be indicated by various physical signs, I started thinking about the things our bodies say about us; and more importantly, […]
Life’s Too Precious to Waste Wallowing in the Past – what to do if you can’t heal from divorce
How many times this week have you mentally replayed a fight that you had with your ex? I want you to answer honestly. Maybe not an actual fight – maybe you pictured what you would or should have said to them. Maybe you picture a confrontation you never had, or the killer blow you wish you’d delivered […]
You Are Not Your Emotions – Have negative emotions from your breakup got you trapped in a downward spiral?
Have negative emotions from your breakup got you trapped in a downward spiral? People tend to define themselves (and others) by their emotions. He’s an angry man. She’s such a happy child. She’s a jealous girlfriend. What a cry-baby. But your emotions aren’t your identity, or even your personality. They’re chemicals that our body releases in response to physical stimuli, thoughts […]
