Category: * Divorce for women

Cling On – or let go? Pt1

Posted on September 15th, 2016 Cling On – or let go? Pt1

They take no notice of me. They don’t support me or show any interest in my job, or my passions, or my interests. They don’t listen. They seem bored when we’re together. I don’t feel they’re proud to be with me. They don’t call or text to see how I’m doing. They’re always too busy […]

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Later life divorce…

Posted on September 4th, 2016 Later life divorce…

Congratulations! You made it all the way through to retirement together. You survived all those early fights, the nappy duties, the teenager tantrums, the little jealousies and resentments, the financial strains, the never-ending couple conflicts, and now… Now you’ve decided enough is enough. You don’t want to grow old together, after all. You’re getting divorced. […]

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Compromising Who You Are? Look Forward to that Midlife Crisis Divorce

Posted on July 13th, 2016 Midlife Crisis Divorce - image

Relationships are about compromise. Right? I mean, we hear that a hundred times a day. It’s drilled into us non-stop. If you want to make your marriage work (and avoid divorce), you have to be willing to compromise. But what does “compromise” actually mean? There’s a huge difference between accepting that you won’t always get […]

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Are You a Therapy Junkie?

Posted on July 6th, 2016

Recently I had a client in her 60s (I’ll call her Tammy) who had spent 12 long years in therapy, trying to figure out what was wrong with her and searching for ways to improve. Tammy had tried every self-help, positive thinking, mind-opening, behaviour-correcting course you can think of. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? Check! DBT? Check! […]

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Why Losing Your Home Feels Like the Worst Part of Late Life Divorce

Posted on June 22nd, 2016

Congratulations! You made it all the way through to retirement together. You survived all those early fights, the nappy duties, the teenager tantrums, the little jealousies and resentments, the financial strains, the never-ending couple conflicts, and now… Now you’ve decided enough is enough. You don’t want to grow old together, after all. You’re getting divorced. […]

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Starting a Second Marriage? Don’t Assume You’ve Learned from Your Mistakes

Posted on June 17th, 2016

No doubt you already know these depressing statistics: nearly half of all marriages in the US and the UK end in divorce. What you might not realise is that this number doesn’t decrease as we get older and wiser and (theoretically) better at figuring out what we want in a life partner. In fact, it […]

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3 ways you’re dooming a relationship before it begins

Posted on April 19th, 2016

Have you been single since what seems like forever – and miserable about it? If so, you may be falling into one of these common self-defeating traps. 1) You raise the wrong bars too high I’m not suggesting you settle for something or someone that just isn’t right for you. I’ve talked before at length […]

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A Tale of Two Singletons: Part One – You Don’t Know What’s Good for You

Posted on March 22nd, 2016

We all have that amazing friend who’s perpetually single, and we just can’t work out why.  You know the type: she’s smart, brilliant, beautiful and tons of fun. She dips her toes in the dating pool – perhaps she’s even the type who always seems to have the next date lined up. And yet, nothing […]

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10 No-Bullsh*t Steps to Becoming the Best Version of yourself that You Can Be

Posted on January 20th, 2016

New Year, New You Let’s face it: “New Year, New You” guides tend to be click-bait, fantasy-land nonsense. Every NYE, millions of us decide that, starting from RIGHT NOW, we’re going to be that happy, shiny, confident and all-round perfect human being we always thought we would be. We’ll spend two hours in the gym […]

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Still Single and Putting Up with It? You Might Be Hiding a Self-Destructive Secret

Posted on January 13th, 2016

If it’s been many months or years since your divorce, have you started dating again? If not, why? Because you genuinely want to be single? Or because you still haven’t healed and recovered from the trauma of the breakup? Because you’re not yet over your ex? When people ask you questions like these, do you get […]

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