I have hurt so deeply and also been nasty but then learned to move beyond the attachment (thank you Naked Divorce for the bulk of my healing) to really allow him and I to start to settle back into our own hearts and ‘way.’ I share because I want you to know that nothing is forever, nothing really matters in the end apart from the journey of loving and learning and perhaps our greatest lesson with an ‘intimate other’ is loving and trying not to attach. With attachment comes the nervousness of loss and so on. He had a profound effect on my existence, more than I have started to comprehend but I am more whole now than EVER and OMG it’s just incredible.
I have lost the ‘need’ for someone. I love me and who I am now (no ego intended) and cannot thank my ex enough for that. To truly love someone sometimes means you set them free to be who they are meant to be even if it isn’t by your side. That shows YOU how much you love YOU too. Don’t hold him/her back for you deny your own growth too.