“An immediate impact on my life”
When I first started The Naked Divorce coaching, I found that I was still very focused on the past, trigger memories and all the “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve thoughts were very constant and I was missing my married life very much. I was also getting too bogged down with yearning for everyone to pity me as much now as they did when my breakup first occurred 2 years earlier. I was experiencing a sense of feeling that my life was “over” in a way and that my ex’s life was much better than mine overall. Before I found the Naked Divorce I tried to find the right support, I had sought counselling through one-on one therapy in person or I was on the phone with psychotherapists, licensed clinical social workers and family counsellors. Just as stated in Adele’s book, these sessions did help me discover and acknowledge a certain family pathology in my personality and my expectations about marriage. But what was missing was a suggested blueprint for HOW to build a path towards an unknown future. Although I did appreciate learning a lot about myself and how my mind worked due to my own past, it tended to keep me in the “past.” I was often telling people I still needed a “hook phrase” to settle me into a peace about this life changing event – even though a part of me still wanted the battle scars to be recognised. When I started the coaching with the Naked Divorce it had an immediate impact on my life. Having a clear calendar (which rarely happened for me) and for the first time having to examine my own self, my own life and especially my own marriage without interruption or outside opinions was a big step. I realised early on that this was not going to deal with issues just at face value, I realised it was important to dig deep and try hard to remember every detail and really get below the surface. I remember not even wanting to peek at the next day’s exercise because it was all I could do to face the day of. I was very satisfied by the real quality of the coaching. Completing this program helped me overcome the sadness without taking away my right to acknowledge I was hurt (from an unwanted divorce). In doing the important daily exercises, it helped me bring the past into correct focus, it taught me about all of my strong & weak points and gave me permission to see the future in a brighter way…and a path to help me stay corrected along the way.” I Chose the Naked Divorce over other traditional approaches because although previous therapy was helpful it was not structured nor goal oriented. Simply stumbling across Adele’s YouTube videos where she described the EXACT emotional roller coaster I was on, without making me feel that I was crazy, was like finding hidden treasure. I now have goals I’ve created for my next steps in my healing journey. My Goals in maintaining my grounded routine and reviewing my exercise notes and results regularly help me battle the occasional self doubts and it really anchors me. Actively reading my Personal Manifesto and Daily declarations reminds me that I exist and that I matter! And Through having something to work towards and achieving my items on my… “Before I die list” I find myself adding new ones too. It gives me vision and insight. I would DEFINITELY recommend The Naked Divorce and to anyone who has or is experiencing a divorce.
