Tag: relationships

3 ways you’re dooming your relationship before it’s began

Posted on September 4th, 2016 Overcome divorce challenges

Have you been single since what seems like forever – and miserable about it? If so, you may be falling into one of these common self-defeating traps. 1) You raise the wrong bars way too high. I’m not suggesting you settle for something or someone that just isn’t right for you. I’ve talked before at […]

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Compromising Who You Are? Look Forward to that Midlife Crisis Divorce

Posted on July 13th, 2016 Midlife Crisis Divorce - image

Relationships are about compromise. Right? I mean, we hear that a hundred times a day. It’s drilled into us non-stop. If you want to make your marriage work (and avoid divorce), you have to be willing to compromise. But what does “compromise” actually mean? There’s a huge difference between accepting that you won’t always get […]

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Are You a Therapy Junkie?

Posted on July 6th, 2016

Recently I had a client in her 60s (I’ll call her Tammy) who had spent 12 long years in therapy, trying to figure out what was wrong with her and searching for ways to improve. Tammy had tried every self-help, positive thinking, mind-opening, behaviour-correcting course you can think of. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? Check! DBT? Check! […]

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Starting a Second Marriage? Don’t Assume You’ve Learned from Your Mistakes

Posted on June 17th, 2016

No doubt you already know these depressing statistics: nearly half of all marriages in the US and the UK end in divorce. What you might not realise is that this number doesn’t decrease as we get older and wiser and (theoretically) better at figuring out what we want in a life partner. In fact, it […]

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A Tale of Two Singletons: Part One – You Don’t Know What’s Good for You

Posted on March 22nd, 2016

We all have that amazing friend who’s perpetually single, and we just can’t work out why.  You know the type: she’s smart, brilliant, beautiful and tons of fun. She dips her toes in the dating pool – perhaps she’s even the type who always seems to have the next date lined up. And yet, nothing […]

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False Healing 101: Why Painting Over the Cracks Won’t Stop You Crumbling

Posted on January 27th, 2016

Do people keep telling you to give yourself time to heal? That you just need to put some distance between yourself and your trauma? Simply wait for long enough and you’ll feel much better, get over it, and move on. Well… tell them to get stuffed. Time heals all wounds they say. Does it? Let […]

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Still Single and Putting Up with It? You Might Be Hiding a Self-Destructive Secret

Posted on January 13th, 2016

If it’s been many months or years since your divorce, have you started dating again? If not, why? Because you genuinely want to be single? Or because you still haven’t healed and recovered from the trauma of the breakup? Because you’re not yet over your ex? When people ask you questions like these, do you get […]

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How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part Two

Posted on December 23rd, 2015

So what now? This is the second part of the series. Haven’t read Part One yet? Click here. Okay, so you pulled up your reindeer-print socks, you got into the Christmas spirit (cabinet), you surrounded yourself with awesome friends and family until Boxing Day — perhaps you even scored a cheeky kiss on New Year’s Eve. […]

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Six Reasons You’re Doomed to Marry the Wrong Person

Posted on December 2nd, 2015 6 Reasons Doomed to Marry Wrong

“If anyone can show just cause why this couple cannot lawfully be joined together in matrimony, let them speak now, or forever hold their peace.” Ever heard that at a friend’s wedding and secretly listed all the reasons in your head why this union is so obviously a bad idea? When half of marriages end in […]

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5 Simple Steps That Will Make You Happier Today

Posted on November 25th, 2015

Everyone’s looking for that one big secret to happiness. We’re all after that magical thing that will transform our lives, our outlook and allow us to feel peaceful and content. But I’m going to let you in to a secret of my own: reality is much more mundane than that. There is no magical happiness formula. There is […]

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