Born from expert coach Adele Theron’s 15+ years helping couples split respectfully, Shift Separation is a roadmap for relationships ending mindfully.
This 3-4 month intensive program navigates the tortuous terrain of separation with wisdom and care. Through self-discovery exercises, communication techniques, needs analysis, and step-by-step guidance, Adele helps you rediscover compassion and rewrite your futures with hope.
Her time-tested curriculum is your path out of darkness. With clarity and courage, you can transition your relationship while protecting everyone’s dignity and wellbeing.
The Shift Separation Program tackles both the practical and emotional aspects of separation through expert coaching and mediation. An expert works with each partner individually to assess their personality types, discover their individual needs and together as a unit to master communication and listening skills, negotiate matters effectively, create a co-parenting plan, manage difficult emotions, heal past hurts, and transition the relationship in a positive way. At Naked Divorce we rely on the skills associated with Nonviolent communication, Gottman techniques and mediation techniques.
To see if you are a good fit for the program, ensure you discuss your dynamic with the facilitator upfront and are honest with yourselves about the growth you need to go through to achieve the goals of amicability. Even if you are not there yet – this program supports separating couples to develop the skills to achieve this goal. If you as a couple are willing to learn the techniques, you can succeed in fixing in your separation what you failed to achieve within your marriage. The key is that a successful separation is based on a series of principles…
The principles of a successful separation:
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Voluntary Participation: Both parties willingly engage in the process, understanding that participation is a choice, not an obligation.
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Mutual Respect: Each person’s voice, experiences, and boundaries are acknowledged and treated with dignity, even in disagreement.
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Emotional Safety: The environment supports emotional expression without fear of retaliation, judgment, or coercion.
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Self-Determination: Each party retains autonomy and agency over their decisions; no one is compelled to accept outcomes they haven’t agreed to.
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Balanced Power Dynamics: The facilitator actively monitors and supports equity in the conversation, ensuring that no one dominates or manipulates the process.
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Transparent Communication: Honest, clear, and direct dialogue is encouraged, with space to clarify misunderstandings or misinterpretations.
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Neutral Facilitation: The therapist/mediator remains impartial, supporting both parties without taking sides or enforcing outcomes.
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Future-Focused Problem Solving: The emphasis is on finding workable solutions and creating forward momentum, rather than staying stuck in the past.
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Collaborative Mindset: Both parties must be willing to listen, reflect, and negotiate in good faith, seeking outcomes that are sustainable and fair.
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Confidentiality and Professional Boundaries: The mediator holds a safe space and maintains clear ethical boundaries to protect the process and both participants.