Ever feared your past emotions will sabotage your future? I have…

Hello! I’m pleased to introduce myself and my work to you. Having been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for many years, and married to one as well, I felt good about my marriage, our communication skills and our ability to work through some very tough health problems that my husband developed when our child was only 2. Fast forward 20 years and life was stressful but because of my good old Protestant work ethic, I plowed on managing work, home, family, social, financial, etc, etc and with this blur of responsibilities and my husband’s ongoing pain condition, our marriage was imbalanced and it faltered. His infidelity was devastating, and I was angry, sad, felt guilty and was fearful of my future as a 60yo newly on the dating scene after the marriage died.

Six years later, I realized that while I had moved forward with work, friends, dating, and even the coparenting relationship with my ex, I was still triggered at various times of year and especially by books and movies portraying infidelity. I felt an undercurrent of anger and sadness despite therapy, travel, great friends and external activities. I also knew I was likely to replicate behaviors from the first marriage in another love relationship and wanted better insight into this. Everything I read about Naked Divorce rang true for me that if I wanted to truly feel clear of that marriage and divorce and the baggage associated with it, I needed to go back to basics and work forward again with self-care, honesty and a divorce coach…

Divorce is what we call a shamed-based trauma. It’s therefore unlike other life traumas… “When someone dies, there is usually so much support and love around and people are much more compassionate and understanding. Divorce represents a failure within our society, so people approach this trauma with trepidation. They want to white-wash the events quickly so that the shame of the failure doesn’t impact them in any way. The sense of failure makes the shame component of healing from divorce acute. It’s therefore very important to heal in a very specific way, using a very specific coaching approach like The Naked Divorce.”

– Adèle Théron