Who am I?
Hi, my name is Salli Andrews and I am the Divorce and Trauma Coach representing the UK, Portugal and Spain.
I first met Adele, founder of the Naked Divorce programme, over 10 years ago in London. Our paths crossed many times as we studied NLP and other personal development methodologies and were both working as coaches in the city. I remember being very impressed by the Naked Divorce programme and the way Adele had structured it into daily exercises and routines. At various points we had shared clients and the feedback coming through from this programme was always exemplary. Adele had created the gold standard of coaching processes!
Fast forward many, many years, a husband, a child and worldwide travel later and I found myself completely and utterly STUCK! On paper my life looked perfect – I had married a good and solid man, had the child I’d always dreamed of having and we were spending our time divided between the UK and a beautiful country home in Portugal. BUT… I was miserable on the inside. My marriage was stressful, I was constantly anxious, I felt controlled and powerless and was totally confused about my feelings and what direction to take. Fortunately, as a seasoned coach, I knew exactly what to do! Get a coach!! And so in January 2021 I moved out of the family home and immediately commenced coaching with Adele.
It was apparent from the first session that Aaron and I had fallen into a common pattern of co-dependency and that I had slowly and steadily given away all of my power, attempting to change myself to fit in with his ways of doing things and in the process had completely lost myself. I was lacking in confidence, self esteem and personal power, having become a true victim of my circumstances. Initially I worked with Adele to pick myself back up and gain clarity and confidence. Then once I was clear that the marriage was definitely over I began the Naked Divorce programme.
The programme was intense, challenging and without doubt one of the most empowering experiences of my life. I took it on like my life depended on it, treated it as my full time job and really went there. I was, and still am, blown away by how quickly and effectively everything fell into place. Confusions became new enquiries as Adele and I worked, as forensic scientists would, unpicking and unpacking the patterns that had been at play. I soon came to realise how much I had contributed to the breakdown of the relationship through not maintaining healthy and assertive boundaries. I discovered a tendency in myself to place the needs of others above my own, and importantly I was able, in real time, to practice and develop healthier boundaries and improve communication between my Ex and myself.
By the end of the 21 days I was quite literally a new woman, well specifically, I was more of the woman I had always been but had hidden away. My friends and family commented on how much younger and brighter I looked, colleagues in other countries told me that I sounded different on the telephone and I came to experience myself once more as being fully control of my life and my destiny.
The relationship I now have with the Father of my child is extraordinary! We have sold our country home, amicably. We went for lunch to finalise the divorce agreements – and to any outsider probably looked like we were long lost friends catching up, sharing a wine and laughing and chatting. We handle issues associated with our daughter and her wellbeing – as a team! It is without doubt, the best relationship we have had yet, and I attribute that to the deep work I was able to do throughout this programme.
And so, it is an absolute delight to have joined Adele’s team of Angels and to support others through this powerfully healing journey towards freedom and empowerment.
If you are stuck, or simply in need of a helping hand to guide you through the quagmire of divorce then please get in touch. I look forward to meeting you and sharing such a wonderful gift!