ClingOn: Attempting to hold onto a person (as if they were a object) which is no longer yours to hold on too
The founder of Naked Divorce Adèle Théron gives a summary from your report
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Your answers revealed that you are currently trapped within a personality type we call ClingOn
You'll need to escape this 'trap' before you can become the powerful person you really are. This will not only enable you to recover from tis life-trauma, but empower you as you move forward in your life.
Your full report is waiting for you, and contains specific case-studies, healing strategies, and quick wins - that will help you to transition through this event swiftly, effortlessly, and powerfully.
A summary of your full report is given in the video above, and in the text below.
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A summary for ClingOn's
There are 5 specific break-up personality types. Each has their strengths and weaknesses. Learning more about yours will help you move forward…
You’ve arrived in this state due to a significant emotional trauma. Your body has chosen for you to behave as a Clingon in attempt to hold on to something which has been lost.
In essence your mind has chosen to protect you from your real emotional environment. In the short term this can save you from the deeper and more painful reality of your situation.
The downside of this emotion is that disengages you reality, and prevents you from taking action. Why would you take action, if you don't really believe that anything has changed?
Without action you will become a victim rather than an active participant in your situation, and your emotional stability.
Some shake of this state after a few weeks, others are not so lucky. They may be trying to Clingon to something that has been lost years ago. And this of course prevents them from moving forward with their lives. As a result this can be a devastating state if it persists for more than a week or two.
In one of our many coaching examples, Chris (not his real name) discussed the potential of marrying his partner with his coach...
After further conversations it emerged that they had not been physically in the same building for more than a few days within the last 12 months, that she was living in a different country, and when she did visit his town she spent her time with friends and didn't visit him. It was a total shock to him when it was pointed out that he was actually not in a relationship at all, physically or emotionally. From her perspective he was simply someone she had co-purchased a property with years previous, and nothing more.
This type of Clingon, and Denial behaviour, is not uncommon.
Try and take an objective look at your relationship, look at the facts rather than your interpretation of them. You may be in for a rude awakening – but that 'awakening' is better sooner rather than later. It can of course be hard - technically it's impossible - to be objective in this exercise. It is particularly helpful in this situation to use an external professional coach wherever possible. Other support may also help, but be cautious of turning to close friends or family as they too cannot be objective – they are in reality often more biased than you are.
In short, a short term dose of Clingon isn't going to cause you irreversible harm. Left for too long however and it can.
Warnings for those who 'ClingOn'
DONT BE IN DENIAL
You don’t want to feel humiliated in front of those you care about, so you are trying to maintain your life as it was. But this won’t work! You'll need to shift your mind-set before you lead a powerful life full that's full of opportunity.
Don't turn to Short Term Emotional Avoidance Tactics (STEATs) like alcohol, social drugs, or over-eating for sanctuary. These will provide a false sense of recovery, only adding more trauma to your life.
To move forward you first need to slow down and allow yourself to become aware of your emotions. The route to your recovery is THROUGH your emotions. Avoiding your emotions is simply extending your pain.
LEARN THE GRIEVING CYCLE
The reality is that you need to work through three distinct and separate emotional phases following your significant emotional trauma. Our work helps people like you transition through these three phases safely, swiftly and with support throughout.
EAT WELL – HEAL FASTER
After an emotional trauma it's essential to adjust your eating habits and lifestyle to support your healing. Use Cortisol-reduction supplements. Serotonin levels can be controlled through diet and supplements.
ESCAPE HIDDEN AGENDA
This may be hard to hear right now, but the reality is many people in your situation hold their own recovery back unintentionally. You'll need deep commitment to move to a healthier and more evolved emotional-state, or you'll be stuck in your state indefinitely.
Be aware of your emotions
Draw on your intelligence (not your feelings) to move forward. Be courageous. Take positive and powerful action starting now.
Left unchecked your Clingon state will only push the thing you most desire further away. It will also push away all other life opportunities, including future relationships and work opportunities.
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