A summary for those ‘Angry’
There are 5 specific break-up personality types. Each have their strengths and weaknesses. Learning more about yours will help you move forward…
You’ve arrived in this state due to a significant emotional trauma. Your body has chosen to use anger to channel the negative feelings you are experiencing rather than allow self-examination which may be more painful to do.
There can be various forms of denial following the collapse of a relationship. Anger is one of the darkest. We tend to feel ‘Anger’ when a situation cannot be corrected.
Some feel that their future has been stolen away from them. If we allow that type of thinking, a belief that cannot be easily solved it can often lead to Anger.
The state of Anger can also be reached due to a sense of injustice. When someone feels they have been put in a position of pain without justification, they often feel Anger and the need to retaliate.
It’s often said that vengeance or retaliation is like swallowing poison in the hope that someone else dies. That is, it can often do you more harm than your target. Don’t do it.
The emotion of Anger is an incredibly powerful tool when we need to take action. It can be an almost bottomless source of energy and really drives us to achieve our objectives. When our objectives are pure and worthy, this is great. When they are dark, and negative it is not.
This can be one of the hardest states to shake off, particularly if it comes from a sense of injustice.
In such a situation you need to get stable first and routines, good diet, avoiding alcohol can all help achieve this.
You then need to take an objective view of what you consider to be the source of the divorce. And be aware that you may not be correct. Often the source of this anger is not what it may seem.
In such a situation it is wise and hugely advantageous to have a professional unbiased and neutral coach to give their external perspective.
One particular challenge with this emotion is the sense of righteousness that often accompanies it. This tends to prevent the consideration of outside ideas or perspectives, and rather negative and downward negative spiral can be created.
Consider, if you can, that however painful this situation provides you with an opportunity for personal growth.
If Nelson Mandela forgave his captures after years of incarceration, then that shows there is something to learn in even the darkest of situations. Nelson went on to say that however hard that experience was, he wouldn’t change it as it helped make him the man he was.
Reframe your Anger into a positive energy. Refer to the full report for more information.
Left unchecked your anger will dominate and destroy every aspect of your life, including relationships with your family, work colleagues and certainly any future relationships.
If however your feeling of anger continues for days, weeks, or even longer then you need to address this. It is highly likely that whilst you are feeling and experiencing anger you haven’t yet expressed the full deepness of it. Thus it remains with you, and will prevent recovery.
There are specific exercises that can be performed to achieve this such as the infamous Naked Divorce Baseball exercise, and are included within the Naked Divorce 21 Day and Haven programs.
These exercises should be completed with professional direction, and so we don’t go into greater detail in this short summary.
You can learn more about your emotions by getting your hands on your Full Report, or through the Naked Divorce programs.