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Stage 1: Victim


  • Poor me

  • How could you

  • Reluctance

  • Outrage

  • Defensiveness

  • Sympathy-seeking

  • Feel the right to be hurt

  • Entitled

  • Unearned guilt

  • Blame/ shame/ fault finding


How to shift:

  • Shift perception from Victim/ pedestrian to passenger/ Witness

  • Shift attention from blame to seeking accountability

  • Have a plan in place for handling triggers