Divorce is painful, complicated and financially traumatic, but a specialist divorce coach can help…
It is ultimately hard to go through, regardless if you are the instigator or the recipient. Being the beginning of a major transition in one’s life, going through it alone is never a good idea.
Of course, your family and friends will be there to support you along your journey, but you will need a professional who can guide you through the process. You need someone who can explain to you and advise you with what is happening during the different stages. That someone can either be a divorce attorney or a divorce coach. But if you can afford it, you should get both.
A divorce attorney, unlike a divorce coach, can represent you in court and take care of the business part of the divorce. The coach, on the other hand, assists the clients in making good decisions by teaching them to separate emotions from the business part.
Here are 5 things a divorce coach can do for you:
Going through a divorce is never easy, you need support to better handle it. (Photo Source: Unsplash)
5 things a divorce coach can do for you
#1 Save Money
They can help you save money during the process.
During the divorce, it is expected for you to have a lot of questions in your mind. However, a divorce attorney will charge you per minute, per phone call which can lead to an exorbitant bill in the end. Time is money for lawyers and this is where a divorce coach can come in handy. You can ask them and talk to them more frequently thereby limiting the need to call your attorney all the time.
#2 Address fears
They will help address your fears and teach you how to deal with your anger.
Divorce is a rollercoaster of emotions. And if these emotions get in the way, it might make the whole process even longer. A coach can help you work through your emotions and keep the stress at the minimum level.
Even if your ex-partner is difficult to deal with, your coach can teach you strategies to communicate better and manage your previous partner’s behavior. A coach will also help you focus on taking care of yourself and prepare you to move forward.
#3 Sound advice
They can give you sound advice that will lead you to make good decisions.
Family and friends are there to support you and provide shoulders to lean on. But the fact is, they are not trained to provide professional support during a divorce. Also, oftentimes, their advice is biased and emotionally charged which may not always be what is best given the circumstance.
A coach, on the other hand, can provide non-biased professional advice during a divorce. Since they are not emotionally and relationally involved in the separation, they remain objective and can see a clearer picture of the situation. Hence, they can help you make the best decisions and avoid taking risky emotional decisions.
They can keep you organized.
Aside from keeping your emotions under control, you also have paperwork, finances, child support, and other issues to tackle. A divorce coach can help you get through all these by helping you organize your schedules and paperwork as well as creating strategies and plans for you to know how to deal with each issue one step at a time. Adding turmoil to an already chaotic situation is something you surely would want to avoid.
If you need help from other experts, like in the case of a traumatic divorce that involves domestic violence, a coach can refer you to other professionals too. Oftentimes, coaches have connections with other professionals whom you might also need in your divorce team.
#5 - Support
They will be there to support you throughout the journey.
Knowing that you have someone who knows the entire divorce process can give you power and confidence. A coach is a thinking partner who can help you maintain your sanity. They will also encourage you to look at the bigger picture, and focus on the result that you want to achieve in the future.
A divorce coach can help you see a clearer picture of the situation and help you plan the appropriate strategies. (Photo Source: Unsplash)
How to Find a Good Divorce Coach
Not all coaches are created equal
Yes, having a divorce coach can make your divorce process more bearable and more cost-effective. But, not all divorce coaches are created equal. So you also need to make sure to find a good one.
To look for a good divorce coach, you need to look at their qualifications. Check their training and certifications. If they have an online presence, leverage on the feedback that their previous clients have and read their history and background.
Ms. Theron is backed with different training and certifications. She herself went through the pains of divorce which resulted in her creating the Naked Divorce 21 Day Programme and now has a team of professionals who will help you get past your divorce faster.